Hi, I’m Sylvia.

I’m a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and Director of Sex Talk With Sylvs CIC. I’m COSRT registered and a Practitioner Member of the Black, African and Asian Therapy Network.

This is a space for exploring sex, intimacy, relationships and you. Whether you’re reconnecting with desire, working through sexual difficulties, unlearning shame or trying to understand yourself and your relationships differently, you don’t have to have all the answers before coming to therapy.

I’ve been interested in sexology, the scientific study of human sexuality, for over fifteen years. I initially trained in counselling before going on to qualify in Clinical Sexology and specialise in psychosexual and relationship therapy.

Coming from an African background, I understand how deeply our experiences of sexuality can be shaped by culture, family, religion, gender expectations, silence and shame. For many people, sex simply wasn’t something that was openly discussed. Yet those messages don’t disappear when we become adults. They can influence how we experience our bodies, desire, pleasure, intimacy and relationships.

I’m also the author of Chocolate Cake & Lenses: Her Table, an ebook created specifically for Black women to explore the beliefs, messages and experiences that have shaped how they understand their sexuality. It reflects a wider part of my work: helping people recognise the lenses they’ve inherited and decide for themselves what they want to keep, challenge or redefine.

My approach is humanistic and pluralistic, which means I don’t believe in forcing every person or relationship into the same therapeutic model. We work collaboratively and I draw from different therapeutic approaches depending on what you bring into the room and what you want to achieve.

I work with people of all genders, sexualities and relationship constellations across a wide range of psychosexual and relationship concerns including difficulties with desire and arousal, orgasm, sexual pain, sexual functioning, communication, desire discrepancies, compulsive sexual behaviours, sexual identity, sexual shame and the impact of sexual or childhood trauma.

Therapy with me isn’t about me telling you how your sex life or relationship should look. It’s about helping you understand what has shaped you, decide what works for you and have greater autonomy over your intimate life.

All sessions are online via Zoom, meaning I can work with clients across the UK.

Book a complimentary 15 minute discovery call and we can talk about what’s bringing you to therapy and whether I’m the right therapist for you.